Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Thirty something… Bucket list

Everyone has goals and dreams. They can either be short term or long term, each being just as important. Hopefully my 30’s will be life changing and goal achieving!


1.  Swim with dolphins. (Sorry PETA!)

2.  Go zip-lining.

3.  Learn how to mow the yard.

4. Walk another 60 miles for Breast Cancer this year in Dallas.

5.  Volunteer at the Animal Shelter.

6.  Read 5 books in 1 year.

7.  Pass out blankets to the homeless in my community this winter season.

8.  Go one dates with my husband.

9.  Get a makeover. (Never had one. A REAL one.)

10.  Bring the police station and fire department cookies.

11.  Inspire others.

12.  Lose 60 lbs.

13.  Teach Logan to ride his bike.

14.  Finish my degree.

15.  Downsize my clutter!

16.  Go to one of Ellen’s shows.

17.  Wear shorts during the awful HOT summers here in TX. (It’s been 10 years!)

18.  Run a marathon. (Maybe just a half!)

19.  Spread my dad’s ashes in the mountains of CO. (I have a tiny urn with some.)

20.  Go to a Zumba class.

21.  Donate my hair to Locks of Love… AGAIN!

22.  Go on a cruise with JUST my husband.

23.  Dance in the rain.

24.  Own a snow cone truck. (Hey… I have 10 years right?)

25.  Volunteer with Make-A-Wish foundation.

26.  Bake a pie from scratch.

27.  Learn how to meal plan.

28.  Pick out and cut down a REAL Christmas tree!!! (Sorry… The Tree version of PETA!)

29.  Go camping more.

30.  Take my kids to Disneyland.

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Thirty something... FACTS

As most of you know… I’m turning THIRTY in a few weeks. I am actually having a really rough time coming to the realization that I will no longer be in my TWENTY’S. Usually I LOVE my birthday. I like to celebrate all week long! This time I kind of want to sleep right through it. To be completely honest, I wouldn’t mind being 29 for a few more years. For the next few blog posts, I am going to be doing “30 something” blog topics.

To start us off I’m going to be listing 30 facts about me:  

1. I met my husband at the bar. (I told him that night I was going to marry him.)

2. We got married less than 6 months later.

3. I have only blow dried my hair twice in over 2 years.

4. I rarely brush my hair.

5. I only finish about ONE book a year.

6. I have my husband’s name tattooed on my wrist.

7. No, I don’t regret #6.

8. I LOVE soda. Yes, I know it can kill you. (I’ve been soda free for 3 weeks now.)

9. I could stay in my house for weeks at a time. Maybe even months.

10. If I see a flat surface in my house I will stack junk on it.

11. I absolutely hate eating anything with NUTS. (Except peanuts)

12. I have never had a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.

13. I think marijuana should be legalized.

14. I use to be a Budweiser girl.

15. I am a TV addict. (Seriously, I have seen almost

16. I have never broken a bone. (I hope this isn’t jinxing me.)

17. I sang acappella at my dad’s funeral.

18. I was born in Colorado, but always say I’m from TX.

19. I’m a CphT. (Certified Pharmacy Technician)

20. I could sleep ALL day long.

21. If I really love a movie, I will watch it 2-3 times in a row.

22. I was sexually harassed in college by my professor. When I came forward so did several other students and teachers.

23. I have to make a list for everything… even though I NEVER complete them.

24. I am obsessed with Christmas.

25. I never went to Prom.

26. I saved someone’s life after they got into an accident driving drunk. I had nightmares for months.

27. My dream is to run a marathon someday.

28. I had tongue surgery.

29. I could eat cereal for every meal.

30. I haven’t been in a swimming pool in 5+ years. (Or lake, water park, ocean…)

Welcome Mil-Blogging Buddies!

Hey Y’all!

I am so excited to be this week’s featured blogger over at Mil-Blogging buddies FB group! I joined this group in order to learn more about one of my favorite hobbies. Although I only have 40+ followers and nowhere near the same amount of page views as others in the group, I still love doing what I do.

So, I was asked to write about what’s behind the curtain of Mallory. Ha! It truly depends what day of the week it is! I am a highly emotional person, and I live life with lots of passion. This could mean trying to change the world one day… or standing on my soap box saying why I think going back to the basics is best! I feel like people describe me as a bubbly introvert. Is that even possible?

My daily life is full speed into the hectic stage. I have a 5 year old son, 2 year old daughter and we just had out last baby girl who is 6 weeks old. Sleep is far in-between. Peaceful showers and potty breaks don’t exist. I am pretty sure I don’t eat 3 meals a day either! We also are a homeschooling family! I promise, I am sane most days!

My husband is amazing. He has been in the Army for 13 years. I know people tend to write or say mushy things when asked about their significant other…. BUT he really is a keeper. He does the dishes. Does MOST of the cooking. He is VERY patient when he comes home to a beautiful mess. I just love him to pieces and feel like he and I are perfectly imperfect for each other.

Another thing we are asked to include are our favorite blog posts. Although I don’t have many… I have some very honest ones that I like to look back at.

I suffer from depression so this was a recent one I wrote.

I also lost my dad unexpectedly in 2006. It took me awhile to tell my story so this is a post I look back to often that was written in 2010.

Cleaning out my closet

I write about topics that make me who I am. I don’t focus on one thing. I wish I had more readers, but right now I don’t even know where to begin! My blog design is simple. That’s all I know how to do. My readers are just family and friends. Hopefully one day I’ll grow! As my life starts finding a schedule again (the baby starts sleeping more at night and less during the day) I hope to write more.

Thank you for taking the time to read what I had to say. To reminisce about the day you started blogging. Back at square one.

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Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Suffering Silently. Depression.

I’m pretty sure after hearing the news about Robin Williams tonight, most of the world was shocked. He spent his whole life making the world laugh, when he was so lost inside. It was so saddening that it takes something so tragic and permanent for people to talk about depression.  Why? Why aren’t more people raising awareness? Why are people so afraid to admit that they are struggling? There are so many of us who are suffering silently.

Does this make me less of a woman? Less of a mom? Less of a wife? Even less of a friend? At times… maybe. Only because no one understands. At least, I didn’t think anyone did. It’s not like I have a cast on my arm… now that, you can see. You know to offer help or be a little more kind that day, because you see their arm is broken. They are temporally suffering.

When you struggle with depression is it temporally or permanently? This I can’t answer. We are all different. I feel like with each pregnancy I struggle longer. I’m not sure if that even falls under post-partum anymore either. It hasn’t gone away.  

I finally decided to seek help after I had our first child. My mom talked to me in confidence that she thought I was suffering from post-partum. Then I remember having a discussion with my husband. It sucks. It’s hard to admit that you “failed.” That’s how I took it anyway. Why couldn’t I be strong enough mentally to adapt to all the hormone changes my body was going through. Why couldn’t I adjust to the changes having a baby brought to my life, naturally? I’m not sure why.

I got help for a little while, but later talked myself into thinking “It’s all mental. I can fix it without medication.”

Was I a failure? Am I still a failure after having THREE children and STILL suffering? No, but to be completely honest… the thought crosses my mind sometimes.

I see people post how we are in charge of our own happiness. I agree, but some of us can’t control 100% of the time.

I see this quote posted on Facebook quite often and it’s so true.


Depression is a battle that you can’t see.

Most people would never know I suffered from depression. I don’t think I am around anyone long enough to pick up on it. You have good days and bad. If I’m having a bad day… I stay home.

Let me stop right there and say this: Just because I’m admitting that I suffer from depression by NO means does it say that I am crying out for help. I don’t need help. I just want awareness. I have already sought help from my doctor.

Another disclaimer: Just because someone suffers from depression doesn’t mean that they will harm themselves or others. There are different degrees of depression. Just like there are different degrees of all diseases.

I thought it would be interesting to ask a few questions to two close friends of mine. Ladies who I have shared with about MY depression, who are also silently suffering. Their answers may surprise you. These two ladies are completely different from one another. They live different lifestyles, come from different backgrounds, and certainly are fighting different battles. I wanted people to see that it doesn’t matter your lifestyle, or how much money you make, or how you eat, or physically how healthy you are.


Friend #1

1)      What are the top five feelings you experience when you are feeling depressed?

Alone, sad, confused, afraid, self-hate

2)      What are a few things that help you to feel better in that moment?

Exercise, deep breaths, time alone to think, think of life accomplishments. All to know I am worth it.

3)      Did you seek medical help/medication?

I did seek medical help, but later than I should have. I suffered depression most of my life and was on and off medication most of it but really didn't accept it until a year ago, and have found the right doctor and meds. So glad that I did.

4)      How long have you suffered?

Most of my life.

5)      Do you feel like suffering from depression is frowned upon in society?

I did feel like it is frowned upon, especially in the military. Something is wrong with you if you are depressed. You're broken.

6)      If you could offer advice to someone who is suffering what would it be?

I would tell people to not be afraid. No one even has to know you have depression. Once you are on medication No one could even tell. But most people suffer from depression. With how stressful life is, there would be something wrong if you never has suffered from it at some point. Get help

 Don't let it consume you anymore.


Friend #2


1)      What are the top five feelings you experience when you are feeling depressed?

My top feelings are usually a heavy feeling of worthlessness, anger, sadness, emptiness and guilt.

2)      What are a few things that help you to feel better in that moment?

I do a breathing exercise when I'm feeling overwhelmed. Most of the time, I just cry. Crying can be purging for some...for me it's me actually recognizing that I have these emotions and I have a chance to actually "feel" them. I also talk to the people that are the closest to me...having them just listen comforts me. It's very validating.

3)      Did you seek medical help/medication?

I do seek medical attention. I started in 2008 with a therapist. As I began to work on myself, I add more doctors along the way. I see a psychologist to prescribe me medication for my depression and anxiety. I also see a life coach. She helps me create positive actions in my life while living with depression and anxiety. And I also attend a private group therapy with about 6 people. We are from all walks of life: successful, broke, genius, young, old, black, white, men and women. Depression doesn't pick people by gender or's something that effects everyone. Going to group has taught me that when we are all stripped down, honest and raw...we have the same problems. And we all cope with them in different ways.

As far as medication...I take a very special cocktail. It was tailored for me by my psychologist. Often people suffer from situational depression which is temporary...they can take meds for a short time to get over the hump. And there is clinical depression. It's a chemical imbalance that stays with a person... it's part of their make-up. Everyone is different and any medication recommendations should be provided by a licensed dr.  

4)      How long have you suffered?

I have major depressive disorder and sever social anxiety. I was diagnosed in 2008 but after getting help, I realized that I've lived with this all my life. My family or myself did not recognize the signs at the time. I was described as shy or quiet. And I was thought of as lazy or thought I couldn't amount to anything because I couldn't apply myself.

5)      Do you feel like suffering from depression is frowned upon in society?

I definitely feel that society frowns upon depression. And not just depression but a whole slew of mental disorders. It's something that's not talked about because a lot of people don't know enough about the topics. I think society looks down on it because it's something that people can't see. They can't see inside a suffering person's head. Often people that are fighting a mental disorder hide it to keep their jobs, not worry their family or not be judged by someone who won't understand.

6)      If you could offer advice to someone who is suffering what would it be?

The advice I could offer to someone who is suffering from honest with yourself and get help. Get help when you start to see signs. Don't wait until it's too late. Tell someone you love that you need help and that you need to be taken seriously. Thinking that you can overcome depression by yourself isn't realistic. Knowing that you overcame depression because of the help you received and with the people who stood by your side is empowering. You can always start your life over and be who you want to be. Just reach out.


I also had another friend who shared this status this evening that I felt was worth sharing:

"If Robin Williams' death proves anything it’s that anyone can suffer from some form of mental illness or another. The brain, like any other body part can malfunction or cause problems. There is SUCH a stigma on mental illness of all kind. Not all illness looks like schizophrenia or Alzheimer's. Depression and anxiety affect more people than we know. The MORE we talk about these illnesses and quit making people feel like they are not normal or crazy because they suffer from them, the less likely things like this are going to happen. If you believe you are suffering from some type of mental disorder (whether you believe it's chemical, hereditary, or situational) GET HELP! Seek assistance. You cannot combat it alone.”aking people feel like they are not normal or crazy because they suffer from them, the less likely things like this are going to happen. If you believe you are suffering from some type of mental disorder (whether you believe it's chemical, hereditary, or situational) GET HELP! Seek assistance. You cannot combat it alone.


All we want is for people to know. We don’t want people to walk on egg shells or think we are crazy. I promise, we aren’t.  

Rest in Peace Robin Williams. Hopefully your story will inspire people to understand the struggle is real.

Sunday, August 10, 2014


Music is what my soul has been trying to say.... but couldn't find the right words.

There are lyrics that I feel were written just for me in that very moment of time. Songs that give you hope when you feel all is lost. Songs that describe why your heart is exploding from love. Songs to your parents, your children, your husband, and your best friend.  Music is a universal language. You can read the lyrics without hearing the tune and still be moved. These songs.... They found me at the exact moment I needed to be found.

The moment I moved to Texas when I was 9... Looking out the U-Haul window as my dad stood there crying:

"Don't Take The Girl" by Tim McGraw (He told me to remember this song)
"Love without end" by George Strait (He would sing it to me when it came on the radio)

When my dad died:

"Does Anybody Hear Her?" By Casting Crowns.
"Who'd You Be Today" by Kenny Chesney

My Wedding Day:

"Because You Loved Me" by Jo Dee Messina (Our first dance)
"Pride and Joy" by Stevie Ray Vaughan (Yes, I walked down the aisle to this!)

Life songs:

"Broken Together" by Casting Crowns
"Washed by The Water" by NEEDTOBREATH
"The House That Built Me" by Miranda Lambert
"I Can Only Imagine" by Mercy Me
"I Will See You Again" by Carrie Underwood
"Dirt" by Florida Georgia Line

When I wanted to quit while walking the 60 miles for Susan G. Komen:

"Roar" by Katy Perry

The songs that remind me of the love I have for my husband:

"You" by Chris Young
"You Found Me" By The Fray
"All of Me" by John Legend
"Springsteen" by Eric Church

My Kids:

"Never Grow Up" by Taylor Swift
"Butterfly Fly Away" by Miley Cyrus
"Butterfly Kisses" by Bob Carlisle

The thing about music is it never lets you down. It's always that voice in your head when the whole world is quiet.

There are more songs. Lots more, but you get what I'm saying.

Whatever moment you are in right now... find a song. Just know that there is someone else who is listening to it at the same time you are... trying to convey the same message.

Hey, Mr. Sessions.... You're my favorite song.